Do you feel apologetic about your body shape, weight, look?
Do you feel guilty because you have not been able of losing some extra weight and/or when you do, it keeps coming back?
You don’t feel deserving or socially correct to wear your beach outfits, your swimming dress and then, resentful and frustrated for not doing it?
Do you keep blaming your body, victimizing yourself because you feel that your body is not allowing you to do certain things, go to your the dreamed holidays, meet your dreamed partner?
Do you feel angry at your shape and weight, do you refer to your body in disrespectful ways, do you disregard and neglect it as if it has to do better for you to love an dto take good care of it ?
I call it BULLING. And I know how it feels. For many years of my life it was my attitude towards my body. I disliked it so much that even when others complemented my weight and shape, it was never good enough and I was always in fear to lose that shape and weight, I sooooo distrusted my body. MY BODY KNEW THIS.
If you are used to treat your body with disrespect, blaming, shaming it and shaming yourself for how it look, maybe you need to ask yourself: Would I do it with my friends? Would you do it with my kids, with my loved ones?
However, some of us have done it with our full time partner, our body. Doing it with one’s body is in a way attacking oneself, the body is with us 24/7 and it will be until the end of our life…
When we bully our body we enter in a stress state, as the cortisol increases. In this state, the functions that help the process of calorie burning slows down. In stress response the survival mechanism is translate in fat accumulation as if the body is in risk. Fat is our most ancient survival physiological strategy since food was in limited supply for most of our human history. This is a memory in our genetic pool. Living with negative emotions around our body is counterproductive to have a healthy weight.
We are in this body to experience life… its time to love it, appreciate it, own it as it as a gift and opportunity to inhabit the physical realm. It deserves to be treated as we treat our most love friend, because it is. If we remember how hard and intense it is the work of keeping us alive. The body enjoys appreciation and gives back health and wellbeing when is respected, complemented, appreciated.
When we own our body, we recognize the magnitude of its work, not only in the physical level but as the container for us to access and experience the other levels: mental, emotional, energetic, spiritual…..
And...when the body is showing some weight unbalance, it is a call for a change, maybe more love, attention, compassion. This call for attention can be a gateway towards inner transformation. Symptoms disguised as problems, will allow us to uncover underlying causes such as toxic beliefs and unresolved emotions that are challenging body physiology towards a healthy weight.
Saying goodbye to self-blame and resentment, and step into a future where you embrace your uniqueness and feel confident in your skin. Embracing our body with love, compassion, and acceptance can be the first step towards transformation far beyond the physical which can be a richer path towards the realm of the spirit. A holistic approach to mindset transformation, and emotional awareness around the way how we relate to our body empowers us and facilitate our healing journey.
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